Episode Transcript
[00:00:00] Speaker A: Go out to LA
[00:00:02] Speaker B: Comin from the city where no pity is. Shell, Shell.
[00:00:04] Speaker A: Somebody need to do a song for la.
[00:00:06] Speaker C: Straight up.
[00:00:13] Speaker D: Hello, my name is Elaine and I'll be your tour guide through South Central Los Angeles.
[00:00:18] Speaker B: Look, count my dough and smoke up. I'm from California, where you from? So what? I'm from California. California. California, California. This is Los Angeles. Well, where we
[00:00:30] Speaker E: going?
Yo, yo, yo, yo.
So imagine somebody you love passes away.
You know, they're no longer physically here, but you get to keep three things that always did, they always did for you.
It's something special. Like you got to think, you got to ask yourself, do you think that, do you think that'll help you grieve? Do you think that I help you throughout the years?
Especially if it was like immediately, you know, because it's hard, it's tough. You know, we, we are in that season too, you know, I want to, I want to dedicate a few episodes here and there throughout, you know, the month. What, you know, the month of October is coming to an end, but we heading into you some, you know, more, more family like holidays, you know, with Thanksgiving and Christmas rolling around and then that goes into the new year.
All three of those special days is, you know, is really geared for, you know, families. No matter how small or big your families are, they are important, very unique, you know, you love everybody. Well, not everybody, most, you know, and a lot of us have our, you know, immediate family.
Some of us that has gone off and built relationships and marriages have their own family that they have to raise and you know, it's no longer a thing where you in mom's house or you and you in your parents house and you know, in your old room that you've been in since you was fucking eight, you know, you know, you got other people that look up to you now that's a part of the family.
But yeah, I mean, year after year, you know, once you get older, you start to lose a lot of people. And some of us lost people when we were younger, you know, friends and family, co workers.
We've lost a lot of people in our lives. And if, as we've all said, if you can have that, that moment or that time, that extra time. I just seen him, I was just with him, you know, I thought about hitting them up, something like that.
So I came up with the idea of, man, I need you, the listener, you listening, Go pick somebody.
Pick somebody that you truly missed or pick somebody that you truly love, you know, and just think of three, only three.
And my For a lot of us, one would be great.
But I'm gonna give you three things that this particular person or that particular person used to do.
At first, I was gonna have people call in or leave a voice message with their experiences, with their ideas and their creativity, but I was like, nah, I rather.
I'd rather either hear it personally and keep it to myself or make a whole nother show of it, you know, and we can make a part 2 or spin off or something like that.
But this is what it is.
Gonna break down three things for this particular person.
And their birthday just recently passed. Like, I'm actually recording this episode on October 27th, and their birthday was yesterday, October 26th.
And this particular person used to bake a lot, had a lot of side hustles from, you know, stripping and waxing floors, shampooing, carpets, baking, had a vendor, had a couple of vending machines, you know, candy.
Had a lot of side hustles on top of, you know, working for the school board, but used to bake, could bake their ass off, you know. And I'm talking about top two in the arsenal was definitely peach cobbler and a lemon glaze cake. Pound cake. My God.
My God.
Special. Special. Tasty. You know, the second thing was not every Friday, but a lot of Fridays, I'll say that.
And especially those Fridays where we've been waiting on a movie to hit vhs. So, you know, I'm a Blockbuster slash Hollywood video baby. You know, I used to watch a lot of.
I've never, My mom has never ordered or paid for a pay per view event, you know, so There was no WrestleMania SummerSlam in the house.
Like it was. So. It was so many Tyson, so many pay per view events. I always had to watch them at someone else's house or I used to have to wait until they were on VHS tape. And have I seen a couple of live wrestling, WWF events. Yeah, but I was at someone else's house when it happened.
Majority of the time I was consuming my wrestling at home. It was either live, but it was Raw or Smackdown.
And the other one were, you know, I did, I ain't gonna lie. I tuned in to WCW a lot too, but none of the major events. I used to have to wait until it was on vhs and I used to go to Blockbuster and I used to either get that. I stuck with. I stuck in.
I was very wide range when it came to movies, but I stuck with horror movies, sports and comedy movies a lot, A lot. You know, I didn't start branching off into other different type of movies until I got, you know, a little bit older. Somewhere in my late teens, early 20s, started to dig in and dive into different, different type of movies like Malcolm and Marie. That's something that I probably wouldn't go see when I was younger, but older. I, I thought that was a masterpiece. I thought it was beautiful.
Well done. Shout out to Zendaya, you know what I'm saying? And Denzel's son, I think Denzel.
But yeah, Blockbuster was a thing. Not only that, we used to pair it with Chinese food, you know, house fried rice, beef and broccoli, orange chicken. You know, my mom used to always buy the sweet and sour pork and cut them up and add it to the house fried rice. Phenomenal. That's where I get that from. Egg rolls with the sweet and sour, Sweet and sour sauce. Fire, you know what I'm saying?
Fortune cookies.
And the almond cookies with the, with the, what you call it in the, the almond cookie. With the almond in the cookie. Those are fire, too.
And if it wasn't that, it was Little Caesar's deep dish pizza, you know, for me and my younger brother Corey.
So that's two, you know what I mean? And then the last one was this particular.
They loved the song Goodies by Ciara.
Loved, loved it, like when that song hit, when it dropped. She played that motherfucker all the time. That and America's Most Wanted by Pac and Snoop, of course. A plethora of ODs and things of that nature. She's the reason why I listened to Anita Baker, you know, and so many other vintage Whitney Houston, you know, I mean, it was a lot of great, great, great, great voices.
That's why I kind of pander and, you know, I can't. I kind of pander towards female R B, the women's R B. Great. Phenomenal, man. Victoria Monet. Victoria Monet is in my top five, by the way.
That's a whole another story. But those three things now the, the, the, the concept is like, this stuff continues to happen. I lost my mom back in 2008. August 23, 2008.
And I was like, man, you know, normally what people would do, they'll hoard stuff. And I did. I had my mom's like, pajama pants for a long time. I still have her rare pearls lotion. I still have that.
It's a couple of. It's a couple of things that she had that I kept as well as my brothers, too. The one thing that I'm mad I didn't keep was her Barbies. I'm really mad. I didn't keep her Barbie. She collected Barbies and she made her own a dollhouse.
And I believe my creativity stemmed from her brother, one of her brothers, which is my uncle Bruce, because he was he the one that got me into Bruce Lee karate drawing and horror movies. Those three things. I love all three, right?
And I, and I was a very, I'm a very creative person now. I'm a very creative man now. But as a kid I was extremely creative. I drew a lot, I colored a lot, you know what I mean? And I believe that stemmed from my uncle. But also I had to pay attention to later down the line my mom started to do a lot of creative shit that I never was aware of until I was an adult. Like, oh shit, she was in her creative bag too. I may have gotten that from her as well.
I don't remember my dad being as creative, but I know what I did get from my dad and that was I'm a smart ass. At the end of the day, I'm an asshole. I can be. I'm more sophisticated, humble asshole. Like I know when it can get out of control or get annoying or something like that. I'm very self aware, but my slick mouth is. That's 1000% my pops. I'm named after my pops. I was born on my pop's birthday. We have the same birthday. I was born on his birthday. So it's only right for me to be a junior.
But my wittiness comes from him. My mom, she had that. She had a goofy, she had a goofy side, but she worked and she took care of her. She took care of her son, she had the jackpot. She had three sons.
But the whole thing is, what else is it besides hoarding on to items that they left behind?
And I figured, hey, what if from time to time, whether it was a joke or it was just at the right time, I came home and there's a peach cobbler in the oven cooking or a lemon pound cake that's on the counter covered, fresh, right? Just out of nowhere, it just pops out of nowhere, you know, and that's a sign of son, I'm here, or I've been thinking about you, or here you go.
And the reason why I said that can also be considered a joke because it could be around the time that I'm deciding, hey, it's time for me to lose some weight, cut back on the sugar, and then, boo, a homemade fucking peach collar comes out of nowhere with the ice cream like, you Know what I mean?
So I would have definitely picked that. The second thing, like I said, Chinese food, you know what I mean? And movies, I would still do Blockbuster till this day. The closest thing to Blockbuster right now, but it's on the dsps, is to be. That's why I love to be. I like Tubi more than I like these other ones that we are actually paying for.
You know what I mean? So I was still, you know, knowing that there. There aren't any physical Blockbusters. At least I heard they was making a comeback.
Don't know how true that is, but I would like to still have a VHS player that still work, you know. It still works. And then, you know, whatever movie that has recently come out, like Street Fighter just recently came out a couple of Sunday, I mean a couple of Fridays ago, but here you go, son. This is the Street Fighter that just came out. It's on the vhs, you know, shit like that. I know it sounds like on some Sci Fi shit, but let's roll with it, nigga. This is Sci Fi Emotions right here. You know what I mean?
And again for dinner that particular night, me and my wife ain't arguing about it or going back and forth to see what the fuck, who going to come up with it and then who going to cook it. It's just bam. We just naturally know that. That, hey. Or not even naturally. No. Boom. I come home, sugar, what we going to eat? Oh, hey, this Chinese food just popped up. So you know what I mean?
That's what it is.
I fuck with cream Cream cheese. The won. Cream cheese wons, man, that shit is crazy good.
And then the last thing is basically Sierra My goodies.
And like I said, I could be cleaning up, I could be on my way to work, you know what I'm saying? Or I could be playing the game and I'm just jamming. Headphones on, stereo system, you know, blasting loud. I'm playing my shuffle. I got two playlists that I play a lot. I got my West Coast Bias playlist and then I also have my R and B playlist that I update both every so often.
And I just press shuffle and just let it go. Cause it's all hand selected songs. And then Sierra My Goodies, come on. I can honestly tell you Sierra My Goodies is not on that playlist. Is it in my library? Absolutely. But is it in that, Is it in any playlist? No.
That song is going to come on. I can't skip. I can't skip. It can't change it can't Turn it off.
That song has to play through. And that's my mom letting me know I'm here, or I thought about you, you know what I'm saying? Or I'm still here. You know, me personally, I think it would help.
I think it would help.
I'm not gonna speak for y'. All. I'm not. But it's hard for me to believe that it wouldn't help. You know what I'm saying? Obviously, you know, you can get emotional and still want them to be there because of that, but you could also feel that same way without having those benefits, you know what I mean? So you might as well take the benefits.
It's three things that you're going to keep you connected to that person. And it's only happening because of the experience and the relationship between you and that person.
This is a beautiful thing, right?
I mean, if y' all can give me a meeting with the Lord for a quick second and I can see if that's available, you know, or at least can we vote for it?
So, yeah, man. I mean, I think it's one of those things where you just gotta look into what is gonna continue to make you happy.
Cause after a loss, it's gonna be.
Gonna be heartbroken. Man.
I miss my parents, you know, And I.
I'm a mama's boy at the end of the day. I love my dad.
I love my dad.
I spent a lot of time more with my mom.
I can even understand my oldest son when the relationship that I have with him versus the relationship he has with his mom, even though they had major differences, you know, but it's still the time spent, the experiences built that creates a certain type of bond and relationship. And I just had that with my mom. And I. And I had the total opposite of what my son had with his mother, which is my ex.
Me. My mom, I thought she was, you know, she's a superhero.
And I didn't think superheroes left that early, but the good ones do die young, you know? And my dad passed away three, Three.
Three years later, you know what I mean? And it was just. Damn, you know, it was so much like I wanted to build with him as an adult, because my childhood with him was.
It wasn't necessarily. I don't want to use the word scarce, but it's a lot of potholes in between experiences.
And I don't have him at fault.
It's just the cars that was dealt for me, that's what I experienced, you know?
But I still would have wanted that second Opportunity to build as an adult and him being an elder.
So all I got left is people who were around in his heyday and experience greatness because he's Locke's one of Lock High's best basketball players. He is a top 50 drew league player of all time.
So. And that's what I could hang my hat on as being his son.
You know, it's just the shit that he left behind.
But he also left a cold personality that I can appreciate because it's also a defensive mechanism towards the world at times or. Or a sense of a skill set, you know?
But if the. If I had to quickly pick three things for my dad to leave behind, it'll probably be my siblings on my dad's side.
You know, they all just randomly are at my house one day.
I know what that is because he did a great job with taking me back and forth to Bakersfield to see my siblings and even my sister in Compton.
He kept that, you know, even though we had potholes in our relationship, I had opportunities and experiences built with my siblings that stayed roughly an hour or two away and 45 minutes away, whether it was for the summer or I went out there during the holidays or in the summer just to chill.
You know what I mean? So that's one thing. Family ties, you know.
The second thing I would say, I think I got a lot of walking from my dad. Truth be told, I walk a lot and I have over 260 days straight of walking 10,000 steps. But I think in general, the walks that I used to have without recording them, when I didn't realize they had a physical benefit to it, whether I was walking to the store, walking to a school, walking to someone's home, I never had a problem walking long distance.
I didn't like it all the time, but physically, I didn't have a problem doing it. I got that from my dad, you know what I'm saying? So I think that's a reminder that I don't necessarily think of all the time, but it is the walking. So I'll take that as the second one and as far as the third one.
I used to say this thing at work, and I used to say it at home.
I know I haven't said it in a while, but if I started to say it, and I don't want to say uncontrollably, but just randomly, then I know that's him talking through me and that's. He will always say, when we about to go somewhere or we about to go to bed or take A nap or something like that. He'd be like, let's do it.
That was his. That was his, like, his phrase right there. Let's do it. You know what I'm saying? It's time to go. Let's do it.
It's time for us to go to bed. Hey, it's time for y' all to go to bed. Let's do it.
You know what I'm saying? So I'll take those three things right there.
Those are some co benefits from my parents, but shout out to my wife, she came up with this dope ass idea real quick before I close it out.
She said, you gotta be careful because you could also inherit those benefits from the person that you love. But what if you inherited from somebody that you don't love?
You wouldn't want those benefits, you know what I'm saying? She said she gave an example of, like, what if you had a bad relationship with your parents and you used to get your ass whooped all the time? So now on your birthday or their birthday or a special occasion, nigga, a random belt dish pop up. Niggas don't wanna be.
That'd be crazy though, you know what I'm saying? But I said, you know, on this timeline, we just talking about people that you love and that you miss at the end of the day, so nothing too crazy.
You know, sometimes. Sometimes we lose.
When we lose somebody, we don't just lose the person.
We lose the little routines that come with them.
You know, they made food, the places we went, the music they played.
And sometimes those are the things we wish we could just experience one more time. You know what I mean? So even though I ain't gonna say it's not possible, I just. I don't know if we'll ever experience that in this lifetime.
But I think something as simple as just hearing a voice, I think 99.9% of people would just want that.
Yeah, the cakes is cool, the food is cool, the. The VHS tapes is vintage and cool, the songs are dope or whatever, but knowing that you can hear that person voice say your name again.
That's, that's, that's. That, that's. That'll be good. That'd be good, that'd be good. But y' all give us some thought, man. And I'm. I'm cool with getting some feedback for that. You know, pick a person, anybody. You know what I'm saying? I get it. Y' all might have a ranking system, but it doesn't have to be that number one. Person. Some people, you know, you might be like, you know what? I'm glad they are in a better place, because this shit is a shit show down here. You know what I'm saying? So at least we know they not suffering. But you could. It could be a friend, it could be a coworker that you was really cool with. You know what I'm saying?
It could be a classmate that you started to build a relationship with. And y' all didn't talk that much in high school when y' all was younger. It could be anybody.
Pick that person. Name those three things, send them to Baylor.
