How the journey started.

[00:00:00] Go out to la. La. Coming from the city with no pity is shell. Somebody needs to do a song for la straight up. [00:00:13] Hello, my name is Elaine and I'll be your tour guide through South Central Los Angeles. Look, count my nose. Smoke up. I'm from California. Where you from? So what? I'm from California. Cal. California. Cal. Cal. This is Los Angeles. Well, where? [00:00:31] Work. [00:00:33] Did you get that thing oiled down? Oiled down? Yeah. Did you get it oiled down? Oil that oiled. [00:00:41] You talking about the oil change? Yeah. So why don't you just say that? I mean, what the hey is how it started. [00:00:49] Shout out. Shout out. Hey. I don't know if G J is up though. We supposed to do an episode together. [00:00:58] This is how it started. For people that don't know, we talking about, like, the journey, the actual journey through, like your love journey. You know where it started from? See, from. From. From a guy stand standpoint. I have to. Bam. My bad. [00:01:17] From a guy standpoint, like, it's. It's just a different journey than little girls. And maybe that's what Gigi was supposed to be here for. And technically I didn't call her, so it's not her fault, but I'm going to blame it on her anyway. [00:01:32] I'm just rolling right now. But you start as a child, right? [00:01:37] In your single digits. Nine times out of ten, you're going to have a crush on somebody, and most likely it's either going to be a teacher or it's going to be a celebrity, whether it's an actress or R and B artist or rapper, but you don't have a crush on somebody. For me, it was vanity. Out the gate, vanity. [00:02:03] You see what I'm saying? Like, it's a lot of. It was A lot of 80s and 70s, you know what I'm saying? [00:02:10] A lot of 80s and 70s going back. [00:02:14] Back in the day, you know what I'm saying? So Pam Greer. [00:02:18] Strong, easy. Pam Greer, right? So you see where I'm going with that? And then you got the. You got. You got the girl at. You got the girl at elementary. You got the girl at elementary and you just stare at her. The Wood was most accurate movie of all time that described that. Like, you do a lot of staring. You do a lot of staring because I. You don't have no game, bro. You ain't got no game. [00:02:46] You ain't got no game in elementary, you know what I'm saying? It's like you straight to the point, you playing with action figures. You know what I'm saying she got the Barbies. Y'all playing house, okay? G.I. joe married out the gate to Barbie. Different types of Barbie. Interracial. [00:03:09] It's a lot of that going on. Cause you got so many different. She got so many different type of Barbies. You can't really sit through the tea set. But you fuck with the. You know what I'm saying? And you. How. How is it that. [00:03:22] How is it that? Like G.I. joe, you know, Batman, Superman, like, why they got to go to work? [00:03:29] They always got to go. They always got to get in the car and go to work. [00:03:35] Niggas never knew where your action figures worked at. You never knew where you. You never knew where Hulk Hogan worked at. You knew he was a wrestler, but you was married to Barbie, but you had to go to work, but you never knew where that job was at. [00:03:50] You don't know if you was working with Homer, huh? [00:03:54] You don't know if you working with Space Ghost. You don't know what's going on. Back then we had cabbage batch kids, you know what I'm saying? Lunch pail Wild. Remember Archie? [00:04:08] Remember Archie? Book and cartoon throwback man. Yeah, but you get your first crush over there. You know what I'm saying? [00:04:17] You know what I'm saying? We talking about third, fourth grade. Fourth, fifth grade. That's when it really kick up. You know what I'm saying? And then when you get to middle school, it's a whole totally different monster. [00:04:28] Whole totally different monster. Now you gotta go talk to the girls because you dancing with them. And you gotta know how to dance. Cause you going to these house parties and that girl you got a crush on. Where go a little. Because the notes. That's when the notes start like niggas before text messaging notes, nigga. [00:04:46] And you know how. You know how you get a blocked text message back in the 80s and the 90s, nigga? Get your. That note get intercepted. It don't make it to the other person. [00:05:00] You press in and that motherfucker. Especially if you're doing it in classes. In class. That's when. That's one of the dopest. That's when the. That's when the most intimate notes came from in class because you had to sneak. [00:05:11] You had to sneak. And then. Oh, let's not. Let's get before the game, before you even. Before you even get the team, nigga. You gotta get. You gotta practice. You gotta. [00:05:24] When you gotta. When you send or if you receive. [00:05:29] Do you like me check yes or no? [00:05:34] For you desperate? Some of y'all put maybe. And that's crazy how y'all. That was smart, how y'all played that. I like how you did that. [00:05:42] But the real OG's, no, it was, do you like me, yes or no? Because now we go together. Going together was a thing. It was some strong relationships in middle school. Remember. Remember the essays? Remember the essay? Couple that been together all through middle school. [00:06:02] Them stay scamming, fool, kissing by the locker, holding hands. These show up to the party. They. It's like these assignees, twins. [00:06:14] You know that couple. [00:06:16] You know that. That's love, right? That's puppy love right there at its finest. I'm talking about puppy love. These N S is in love. We talking about nigga falling asleep on the phone in middle school. But the time was pushed up. Like, you probably got. You probably got till like 11, maybe on the weekend. Get off my phone after that. But during the weekday, then phone calls gotta stop by at least 7, 7 or 8 if your parents is like that. You see what I'm saying? [00:06:49] And it's that. You know what I'm saying? My homeboy wanna dance with you. It's that era. It's that era. If you had a girlfriend in middle school, it was something you was on to. Something like you're in the. [00:07:04] You're in the. [00:07:06] What is it called? The training wheel process. You know what I'm saying? Like you. You going by what you see, whether it's in your own household, in your environment, or it's off a tv, right? Like, you just going off of what you. What you see. You don't have any. Any experience, you know what I'm saying? This is like a camp, you know what I'm saying? Like you. You got dog a lot of niggas in Nano Rhythm. [00:07:32] So niggas was showing up to that party, getting exposed. [00:07:36] You see what I'm saying? [00:07:38] Yeah. Yeah. And it was a lot of pressure. We was checking niggas tags back then. Let me see if that Tommy Hill figure is real. Let me see if that polo like chaps. Let me see. Let me see. You know what I'm saying? Especially if a nigga. If a nigga walked in with the iceberg. If you walked in with any iceberg. They was checking the tags. [00:08:02] Niggas was checking those tags, okay? [00:08:06] Platinum fubu, checking those tags, nigga. [00:08:09] Like I said, Tommy Hilfiger Old Navy was cracking those Old Navy fleas. Middle school favorites. Even though some schools like in la, because of the gang culture, we couldn't wear no hats to school. At a certain point, right, once we got to high school, we was kind of cool. They regulated for a little bit. But in high school, we couldn't wear no hats. [00:08:30] Cause everything was gang affiliated when it came to baseball caps. But the other thing was, a lot of these middle schools and very few high schools adopted the uniforms. So when I was at Bethune, I went to Bethune Middle School. Well, I went to Walton in Compton for like a semester or something. I was supposed to go to Roosevelt in Compton, but my mom didn't want me to go to that ghetto ass school. So she was like, walton. And I had to walk 13 blocks. I stayed across the street from Compton Community College, and I had to work. I had to walk a total of 26 blocks, total 13 there. 13 back to my middle school. We used to pass Dead dogs on Greenleaf all the time. All the time. And I had a fight there. I told y'all about that fight. But whatever. [00:09:16] You see certain girls dog in middle school, and it's like, someone be looking older than, you know. Cause middle school out here around My time was 6, 7, and 8. 6, 7 and 8th grade. [00:09:27] You got scrubs. And I don't know what they call the seventh or the eighth graders, you know what I'm saying? But I know, I know when you was coming in, it was calling you a scrub or whatever. [00:09:37] Yeah, a lot of house parties. Like, I probably went to. [00:09:41] I probably went to more middle school, high school parties. I mean, middle school parties than high school parties. And I went to a gang of house parties. But, you know, once you got to high school, which we get into the next level. Stay with me on this journey. Stay with me on this journey. [00:09:58] When we got to high school, those house parties were different because now we had to. [00:10:03] It's different. Like, it's a different type of squabble, you know what I'm saying? Keep in mind, the gang culture is filtered all through this is you're not getting. No, you're not getting away from it. And it plays a pivotal role in how we moved and how we partied and. And our ptsd. Because every house party that we went to in la niggas is a neighborhood, it's a hood. You know what I'm saying? So it's like we either going up all my niggas powers over here, or six soldiers over here. Oh, this is 40s, you know what I'm saying? Are you over here with the rolling twenties, like, is. Everything is shaking is moving, right? And you ever had interest in one of the Girls who had heavy gang ties, whether it was in her family, like her brother, cousins and like hey yo, some of the finest females, some of the finest in middle school slash high school had gang bangin ass brothers and cousins. Nigga, you think Stacy was. You think Stacy was bad from the wood? No, he was like from. From 1, from the scale to 1 through 5. He was on. He was on a 4. He was on a 4. You don't want to see the fives though. You don't want to see the niggas that just niggas fight. Those are the ones nigga, that they do shit for no reason at all. Like fuck it, nigga, you know, ain't no consideration, no, none of that. Them niggas just said tripping. And when we got to high school, Adam crushes is different because when you go together in high school, nigga, that's technically that's your first marriage. Because think of how many people they. They high school sweetheart, that's what they call it. This is your first marriage. This is one girl go through quincieta. You see what I'm saying? Like this niggas go through puberty is here. Niggas is growing beards and mustaches and shit like that. And is extra musty, musty. Hormones is going crazy. Now you going the phone calls, it has extended because now you 16, 17, 18, you know what I'm saying? Years old and well, you know, 14, 15, that's pre ball game. And then 16, 17, that's peak right there. Especially like that 17, that's it. That's the year, you know what I'm saying? That's the year where those phone calls extend to, you know, 2:00am, 3:00am and that's on a night that we didn't go out. That's on the night that we didn't go to zakia party, you know what I'm saying? [00:12:54] That's the night that we don't go out. We not headed to the mall, to the movies, we not going to the South Bay Galleria, you know what I'm saying? Or Delamo niggas was going to the Llama. I was on a mission. Because that's different type of. That's different type of girls over there we used to see in high school. We used to go to the South Bay Galleria because they had a movie theater and plus they had all the store leads Eddie Bauer, you know what I'm saying? And then they had the gang junction that kicked in where no matter if you gang bang or not, you couldn't have more than, I think it like more than two, more than two or three people in a group walking together. You, they'll split you up. They literally have police insecurity in the theater. I mean, not in the theater and in the mall. And they'll be like, you break it up. So we could be together, we can be nine deep, but it's got to be five different groups, you know what I'm saying? To break us up. And if we ignore it and they catch us on multiple occasions walking together, then we get a fine. [00:13:57] Yeah, a gang junction. [00:14:00] But yeah, South Bay Galleria, the Lamo Mall, the West side Pavilion was a low keyer, you know, and that's where you used to, used to take a lot of girls to west side Pavilion because for one, it's in the, you know, it's a nice, safe, safer area close to, closer to Westwood, you know, not too far from ucla. And it was just a low key or. They didn't really have any like dope. I mean, they had some stores, but it wasn't like Fox Hill. Fox Hill, that's our flag, you know what I'm saying? Like, that's the main, that's our dope. That's the, that's the culture mall. I mean, that was, it's changed. I would say that, but that was, that's the, that's the, that's where the culture was going. That's right next to Ladera, Ladera Heights, you know what I'm saying? [00:14:48] Yeah, that's us right there next to Culver City, you know what I'm saying? So it's like right there, you know, you, right there by, like I said, Ladera Heights and Baldwin Hills, you know, it's right there, the black Beverly Hills. [00:15:05] And then you got, like I said, the Llama Mall. That's a, you know, that's a, that's like one of our top expensive ones, you know, expensive malls. Then you got the Beverly center and shit like that. A lot of celebrities shop at, you know, towards that one because, you know, you got Melrose right down the street, Sunset, all that is over there. [00:15:26] And yeah, man, high school. The high school girls, you got a, a crush on a cheerleader or, you know, you just. There's so many. And then there's girls that you grew to have a crush on, like late. You probably went to elementary with them or middle school with them and they all, you know, they still rocking with you in high school and stuff like that. And for, you know, almost 8, 9, 10, 11 years being around them and being in school with them, you never looked at him at that way until you do. And then it's just. It's different. Now you own some. Now you own some. Some ghetto Dawson Creek. [00:16:04] You know what I'm saying? So, yeah, high school. That high school. That's that high school. Dating and love. Like, that's your first marriage. That's your first arranged marriage. It was going down. [00:16:17] Yeah. Knew nigga property. Y'all belong to each other. And y'all played Mariah Carey. [00:16:25] Yes. Do, do, do. No, dude, you was dude today. Yo, y'all go to. Man. Y'all go to Magic Mountain together. Oh, you. That was matching the matching Js. [00:16:40] We talking about the matching Js. Couple Tommy Hilfiger matching ass niggas. Platinum Fubu matching ass niggas. She wore Miyoshi, remember Mecca, huh? Inishe or nyc, whichever you want to call it. [00:17:01] You tell me. You tell me. Like I said, Eddie Bauer niggas was rocking the Eddie Bauer canvas. I had the beige ones and I had. At the beige ones. I forgot the beige ones. And did I have some gray ones or some blue ones? I had some blue ones. They had two styles, too. I like the OG ones. I like the OG ones that look like vans. They were similar to vans or whatever. And then they changed them to more of a preppy look with the dragonfly on them or some like that. Keon and Veil know what I'm talking about. Because we. We was at Eddie Bauer. Like, if Eddie Bauer had a coat, nigga, we was in that motherfucker. [00:17:40] Oh, yeah, nigga. Me see. But see, but Veil didn't. We didn't wear the same shoe size. But niggas ain't gonna talk about that high school closet. Maybe I should add some more because that sounds wild. So pause on that one. But the fashion closet. Jesus Christ. Gotta clean that up. I gotta clean that up. But the fashion closets, nigga, like, I go shopping. We all went school shopping. Niggas was. Hey, remember when y'all was wearing Dada? Some of y'all is nasty for that. And that's including me. But would go school shopping. And what we called it back then was gear. [00:18:15] Was fresh with the gear. You know what I'm saying? So I know y'all is laughing for all you. That's not from California laughing at my accent right now. I know. Is laughing how we say car. [00:18:26] Getting a car. [00:18:29] Hey, but look. Yeah, so like I said, the name brand was big. Used to check tags and stuff like that. But when You. If you was in a relationship or. [00:18:40] About time. [00:18:41] What time you get on the freeway? [00:18:45] Oh, shit. What time did you leave? What time did you leave? What time did she get there? [00:18:54] Oh, not too long afterward. What's that package? [00:18:59] Who is it? My name. [00:19:08] All right, okay. [00:19:11] Where was I at? Where was I at? [00:19:14] What did y'all do in high school? Where? What? Where was y'all going when y'all was dating in high school? [00:19:22] The movies, the beach. [00:19:28] The beach. [00:19:30] And where else? [00:19:33] Did y'all have any house parties? And where. And then. Were y'all dancing? Tell the truth. No dancing. [00:19:41] Were y'all dancing with the twerkers? Oh, okay, okay, that's cool. [00:19:50] We was dancing with the twerkers, too. [00:19:54] Yes, I was. Since. From 19. [00:19:58] Let me see. I probably had my first TWERP Dance in 94, 95, something like that. 94, 95. And it never stopped. I mean, till this day. My wife twerks on me at parties. So there you have it. [00:20:16] But that's your first marriage in high school. And now this is when they get tested. [00:20:22] Emotionally battle tested, my nigga. Because now we moving on to the college years. [00:20:29] And this is when it gets real crazy, because now the world has access to, you see, before, in elementary, middle school and high school and even high school to a certain degree. Because if you was a. If you was a popular sports athlete, then you got a little bit of taste of fame outside your high school. But if you just a regular smuggler like myself, then your popularity. Your popularity didn't. Did not really extend outside of your high school like that. Maybe, you know, knew you. I got. I had homies at Crenshaw. Had homies at Dorsey. Did I have at Dorsey? [00:21:16] We don't know. But both of those my rivals. So, yeah, you know how that is. I married a Dorsey. I married a Dorsey. Dawn. And my ex wife went to Crenshaw. Would you look at that? I'm just a West side. [00:21:33] I was slaying the west, okay? I'm just playing. Anyhow, you in the college. You in the college era, right? And that's different because you got. You got. You got coming from all over the world, not just. Not just this country, from everywhere. [00:21:50] It was a lot of Ethiopians that was going to Northridge, if y'all know what I'm talking about. Y'all don't. Because I haven't finished the Northridge stories. But let my tear. Let me. Let me tell you. Let me tell you. Hey, it was. It was going down. You had niggas from everywhere. Niggas from San Diego, Oakland, niggas from New York, niggas from Miami. They. These niggas was coming from Nebraska, Idaho. You know, it's like different walks of life when you have grad night and you go to Disneyland. Disneyland, by far is the. You have to do. That's the best thing ever. You have a thousand schools that is graduating that year on one campus, the Disney campus, right? And it's like you meet. I dance with so many girls, and I'm nine times out of ten, I probably never met any of them after that. After that night, I mean, we collected numbers, we collected moments, memories. We probably remember a few. But after that day. Cause, you know, N didn't leave Disneyland until about 6 or something like that because they dropped us off in front of the school before school started. Niggas. I was out there, nigga clowning in my PJs, nigga like, oh, y'all got class right now, N. I'm about to go home, go to sleep. And I had an option to go to class, but I went to sleep, nigga, at home, I stayed like three blocks away from my high school, walking. Yeah, but now you in college, and that's different type of women's. That's different type because this is young adulthood. We talking about dorm parties. We talking about clubs. We talking about lounges. We talking about button downs. We talking about Steve Madden's. We talking about button downs. My. We talking about the Usher men's members only coach. [00:23:51] What? [00:23:52] What? And you want to talk about elite twerking? You couldn't play it around. Some of y'all was musty. [00:23:59] Some of y'all was musty. But it's part of the game. Like, it was musty in there. Had a time. We had a time. Cause when that Sean Paul came on Shay, dang mess, that one. [00:24:17] Come on, man. [00:24:19] Our era was better than y'alls. But back to it. [00:24:22] And. But these are where the relationships are serious because there's a lot of sexing going on. It's. Everybody's a. [00:24:30] Everybody's walking around slutting it out. [00:24:36] I mean, they have an elite. They talk. They have an elite D1 sex out here. [00:24:42] You know about the girl that's bringing back niggas back to the dorm. [00:24:47] You know about your homeboy putting a scrunchie around the doorknob. Know what that mean? [00:24:54] Took Ls and came back with nada. [00:24:57] Niggas took L and couldn't. Couldn't call up the backups. The backups had already Got called by another. You didn't move fast enough. It was a time limit when relationships ended and the relationship started. You just been my boo since college. We've been knowing each other since college. Or, you know, we. My last relationship, you know, or, you know, my college relationship didn't last, you know, because she called me at the strip club. [00:25:30] She caught me there. I was there in the champagne room. [00:25:34] Like, what do you want me to do? [00:25:37] You see what I'm saying? Because look, in the college years, in the college years, there's two levels. [00:25:45] There's. There's the. [00:25:47] There's the introduction and then there's the lifestyle. [00:25:54] The introduction, that is freshman, sophomore. [00:25:59] But that lifestyle, that's. Yeah, yeah, senior year is different. [00:26:10] But I'm gonna tell you, I'm gonna tell you something. [00:26:20] When we get to that lifestyle, career, mainly the junior year, that's where niggas gonna play with your emotions. [00:26:36] That's where you. You learn about trust. [00:26:43] You, you. You're concerned about your feelings and your image. [00:26:50] And what are you going like? Cause niggas get slapped in the face. When it come. When we get to your junior and your. In your senior year, because your junior is like, nigga, I'm still hanging in here. It's a lot of niggas that tap out in that freshman year. There's a lot of niggas that tap out in that sophomore year. You get to that junior year, it's like, nigga, why stop? But, nigga, I've been getting my ass whooped, you know what I'm saying? But you know, you got one more. You got one more year after this, you know what I'm saying? And trying to. [00:27:24] It's an experiment, my nigga, because you in college, they giving you four years to figure out what the fuck you want to do for the rest of your life or two things. But we want you to worry about the first one and then come back to school for the second one. [00:27:40] And we want you to excel in whatever that is while maintaining your hormones and your feelings with other people in your age bracket. Because when you hit 21, that alcohol, not to say you're not drinking at 18, 19 or 20. Oh, no, is drinking. But now you got the ID, ain't gotta sneak around. And you're cutting off majority of your. Your late teens because the 21 and up club start. [00:28:22] And now you're in the big leagues because your college career goes into your young adult career. [00:28:32] And that's where it gets tricky, because now we talking about niggas who Seasoned. Now it's competition. [00:28:42] Now it's, nigga, where have you been since high school? [00:28:47] You see what I'm saying? And that's going to be. That's going to be an annual thing. [00:28:54] This is where relationships start. This is where baby mamas and baby daddies start. [00:29:01] This is the beginning. This is the first quarter of it. [00:29:06] It's dangerous because now you just thrown into the world at 18, 19, then you outside and you responsibilities, and the responsibilities is on you. Your alarm clock ain't ain't at mom's house no more. [00:29:21] That safe haven, that protection you felt, the sleep that she was getting is not there no more. Because you are a stranger to this new area, even though this is your apartment. [00:29:33] But when the lights go off is you and some strangers. [00:29:40] So now go juggle that what you think you're going to be in life and a relationship and let me know how that works. Because you around 18, 19, 20s, and 21s and 22s and they are floating around at the same time in the same group. [00:30:03] It's crazy. [00:30:05] So you get into a relationship and it don't work out, because why y'all too young to understand what life is. [00:30:13] But y'all felt the physical, played a very heavy influence on the emotions. [00:30:23] And now y'all got a kid and y'all don't like each other. [00:30:31] Now y'all niggas about to be the refurbished couples because we're going into young adulthood. This is when you realize I'm at a job that had nothing to do with my major. [00:30:46] And you are a single nigga out here. [00:30:53] And now is all about your Persona and your status. [00:31:03] Because every year, once you get to college, every year after that is what has you. What have you done since high school? What have you done? And niggas is checking to see if you still in that relationship, if y'all made it out of high school in a relationship. Niggas is checking to see if you still on that. [00:31:22] Because every high school had a high school couple that stayed together or a couple of them. It's a thing they there. You know what I'm saying? But now, nigga, when you reach that 22 to like, that 22 to like 26, those type of relationships, those are relationships that come with Advil. PM Yep. Because you're trying to figure it out. And it's too much. [00:31:54] It's too much. [00:31:57] It's a lot. [00:31:59] But this is what's about to shape. This is what about to shape your emotions in relationships going forward. Because this is where the damage experience starts, you know, for some, starts in college. And then, you know, for others, it's like after. [00:32:19] You know what I'm saying? It's like after college, after the college years. Cause the college years last four, five, maybe six. Six is pushing it. But definitely five. [00:32:32] Definitely five. You gonna have a strong five years of the college experience, whether you are enrolled or not. [00:32:43] After high school, you got another four. You got four to five years of the college experience. [00:32:49] And it's all gonna be different on different levels. That's a fact. [00:32:55] And it's harder to keep a relationship. Even though you're much more mature than you were, you had a better chance of making it last in middle school than in college. I can almost guarantee those numbers is lopsided. [00:33:11] I bet you. I bet you the relationships in middle school lasted longer than the ones in college. It was too many options. Remember, you was only confined to that elementary. [00:33:25] Depending on where. How you know, how much of a distance y'all live between each other. The only time you were seeing her at school or unless you know, y'all got middle school. Yeah, we catching the bus. So we seen each other on the weekend. Or I'm definitely walking that way. Gotta walk through some gang territory, but hey, nigga, gonna do that to get that kiss and that finger action. That's crazy. [00:33:49] That's crazy. Cause now. Now you may be a kid or two in at this point. You may. You may be. You maybe double back to the B moms, same thing. Your baby daddy's still lingering around. Still lingering around, you know what I'm saying? And you didn't. Have you done been in a couple of relationships? One of them got funky between the boyfriend and the baby daddy. And it was. It was. It was something. It was something. Yup. Because the baby daddy was jealous. We already know how this goes, you know what I'm saying? Work is. You had a job that you don't like, you know what I'm saying? And. But you still going out to clubs, you know what I'm saying? Or now it's the heavy on the day parties, you know what I'm saying? Or heavy, the atmosphere changes. You're not in the club where Lil Jon is still active. Nah, it's different. It's different. You go into different type of lounges and stuff like that. Restaurants, you know, spending money that you really ain't got, Struggling. That's for a fact, you know what I'm saying? [00:35:01] And then. And then we get to, man, the late 20s, early 30s. [00:35:09] N. That's when. [00:35:11] Hey, you are in your child's 80s right now. Yep. This is where you start to take the pictures of, you know, you on your dad's lap in the car at the steering wheel like you're driving, but you can't because you never. Nobody, whoever, all of us that took a picture with our dad in a car like that could not reach the gas and brake pedal ever. We all have that. We all have that picture. You either sat in his lap or you were standing up on the seat, whatever the case may be, but you thought you was driving. [00:35:50] Everybody. We've all done that one. We've all done. So we are in your kids 80s. This is where now you. These union jobs or been on the job for 12 years, you know, some stability, you know, co parenting, dope, you know what I'm saying? It's all right. You going over your daddy house this weekend type shit, you know, or, you know, stepmom, stepdads is in the picture now. [00:36:27] That type of love. [00:36:30] That type of love, you know what I'm saying? Now you with. Now you with a chicken. She already come with two kids. And one of them a teenager. He's always the one. One of them a teenager, you know what I'm saying? And it's a boy, a name after his daddy Lamont or something like that, you know what I'm saying? So. [00:36:51] Or like Caitlin. [00:36:53] It's going to be something like that, you know? [00:36:58] Yeah, it's different. Now you talking about. [00:37:02] Now you got to get on the phone. Now you got to get on the phone with your baby mama because now y'all got to go over. Y'all got to go over prom. Y'all got to go over the tickets for the graduation. [00:37:14] You know who gonna be able to get the tickets? [00:37:17] You see what I'm saying? That's what it is. They were talking about getting his license. Who gonna. Who car he gonna use to practice in so he can get his permit, you know the Jordans. He want these paying for playing, paying fees for the AAU teams. Yep. [00:37:37] Yeah. That's what stage you at right now. And then, then you get to. [00:37:44] You get to your mid-30s, and that's when. [00:37:49] That's when you showing up to bars. That's when you showing up to live podcast events, you know what I'm saying? This is. This is when you showing up to, like, TED Talks and office parties and shit like that, right from your coworkers. Y'all go out and shit and. [00:38:13] Yeah, and you in a relationship. And you in a relationship or not. [00:38:19] You moving different, you know, maybe go to a day party, maybe not going to no clubs, barely going to lounges. You might go to a lounge maybe once or twice a year. And that's because somebody threw. They. Somebody threw their 40th birthday party at such and such. And you got. You going. You going, you know what I'm saying? It's like it's your girl cousin and she. Yeah, and you going. [00:38:49] Somebody gonna be in there. Crip walking older cat in his 40s. Because that's part of our culture. [00:38:57] It's just a part of our culture. [00:39:00] And yeah, at that point. At that point, it's like the dating is different, you know what I'm saying? Y'all going out, you know what I'm saying? She probably, you know, niggas going to, like, one of them biker clubs or some shit like that. [00:39:18] No, but mid-30s is like I said. [00:39:25] Those are the. [00:39:28] Those are they. We moved in together. [00:39:31] We moved in together time. [00:39:35] And then we get to the 40s. [00:39:38] You get to the 40s at this point, man, it's like. [00:39:48] It's like your friends is all over the place. They in different states. [00:39:55] Some may be in a different country. Some have just changed their life like crazy. You know, y'all going to alumni games and having a fellow's weekend or a ladies retreat, you know what I'm saying? [00:40:14] Meet up with the sorority and going back to homecomings and shit like that, right? [00:40:24] Just, you know, just going to reunions and listening to, you know, the great old. The oldies and, you know, that y'all was listening to back in the 90s and 80s and 70s and. Right? [00:40:46] Yeah, yeah. Even niggas going to Fridays and chilling every Friday night. They go to Friday. They shutting that one down in Ladera. But that was. That was always. That was probably the most popular Fridays we had was the one in Ladera. That motherfucker popping and they in there, the milfs, they in there. We talking about kids that's in college, work as work for ups. Probably got two baby mamas themselves and shit like that. But mom built like milk status, you know what I'm saying? Like, yeah, and training to be a cougar. [00:41:27] Then you get to get to your mid-40s, and I gotta stop because I turned 42. [00:41:35] So I'm like, halfway. I'll be halfway to the halfway point. [00:41:41] And I had to just come back and give y'all that episode when I. When I get there. But, yeah, that's your love journey.